Couples do not just "drift apart". Affairs do not "cause" the relationship to break down. These are symptoms of problems in a relationship - not the cause.
The problem for most couples is not what you know but what you do not know: what is outside of your awareness. Our therapists help you to see the invisible patterns of behaviour that have eroded your basic sense of trust, respect and security in the relationship.
Couple therapy can identify:
- Destructive hurtful patterns of behaviours formerly outside of your awareness in how you resolve issues, argue, relate to one another.
- What has broken down in your relationship and why.
- Restrictive, self perpetuating, vicious cycles of interaction.
- How past traumas may be affecting your relationship in the present.
In essence, couple therapy makes you aware of the invisible destructive patterns you have both been using, and helps you change these patterns in a positive way.
The process of couple therapy enables you to:
- Feel more acceptance and compassion for your self and your partner.
- Expand your emotional responses.
- Foster and strengthen secure bonds between you.
- Re-kindle feelings of love.
Our therapists help each partner in the relationship to experience the other as a source of security, protection and comfort.
